the possibilities of friendship
by Douglas
Messerli
Alice Oseman
(screenplay), Euros Lyn (director) Heartstopper: Friend / 2022 [Season
1, Episode 5] [27 minutes]
Superficially
one of the weakest of the first season’s offerings, episode 5 of the popular
gay series Heartstopper begins with the endless problem—at least for William Gao’s character Tao
Xu—concerning his friend Charlie Spring’s (Joe Locke) infatuation with the
rugby jock Nick Nelson (Kit Connor). Celebrating with their close friends, Tao,
Elle (Yasmin Finney), and Isaac (Tobie Donovan) can’t seem to even enjoy each
other’s company given Tao’s endless worries over Charlie’s current “date.”
This is all made even more problematic with Charlie’s insistence that Nick be present at his birthday party, an event that is more than a simple representation of his coming of age, but also perhaps signifies the fact that he is gradually moving out of their circle into a different world in which they inhabit.
The episode attempts to sort out those
problems, which frankly are far less interesting than Charlie and Nick’s own ever-growing
deep love for one another, and diminish the fact, basically, that Elle and Tao are
growing closer together as a nearly impossible couple given their own
variances.
The series doesn’t make light of any of
the problems, including Nick’s own attempts to finally make it clear to Imogen
(Rhea Norwood) that he’s not truly interested in her, made far more difficult
given the fact her dog has just died and, so she proclaims, this is the worst
week of her life. The empathic Nick is put in a position that makes it
difficult to explain his situation. And what’s Nick to do when he also joyfully
accepts Charlie’s invitation to celebrate his birthday while at the same time
Imogen is announcing to the world that she and Nick are going out together on
the same night?
Yes, these are adolescent dilemmas, but
they truly do matter in a burgeoning underground gay relationship, particularly
given the inevitable problems facing such relationships in many such still
closeted worlds.
The issue of “Friend” is quite simply
whether Nick is going to remain a distant “friend” or someone who now sees
Charlie as someone he might truly want to describe, if even only to himself, as
a “boyfriend,” the early stage of what in the gay world is defined as a lover.
And, of course, Tao is there precisely to keep tabs about that relationship,
cynical as he is about its reality.
These may be false tensions, but in the minds
of 16- and 17-year old boys and girls, they are quite substantial. Moreover, what’s
worse is that Tao, in support of his friend, interferes even when
Nick himself
attempts to calm down Harry Greene’s (Cormac Hyde-Corrin) homophobic comments
about both Charlie and Tao. As Charlie attempts to explain to his life-long
friend, he’s only making everything worse. When you’re in the closet, as Nick
is, it’s even worse when uncloseted boys such as Charlie and Tao interrupt even
make the vaguest of supports by the closeted boy to speak out. How does someone
come out of the closet when, on one hand he’s being protected by his best
friend/lover and, on the other, being suspected of being straight by that
friend’s long-time friend? How can that door even be gradually slid open?
The psychological pull in this film is
between Charlie’s old, open outsider friends and his new insider lover Nick. Neither
side seems able to break down the prejudices of the others, often with good
reasons, leaving Charlie in a tug of war that might finally break him apart.
And actually does, as we shall see in later episodes. Coming out, so Oseman’s
and Lyn’s challenging series reveals, is a never-ending process, even for the
one who has openly declared his sexuality. It’s no longer a process of whom to
come out to, but how to help others through the same process, and how to break
down the truly tribal warfare that exists even in societies that believe they
might accept “the other.” The problem is always who that “other” might include;
and in this case that “other” is the high school jock hero. If Charlie is dispensable
to the straight world surrounding him, Nick is not. He is one of them, so they
believe, and speaks for their own sexual “difference.” The planet of “difference”
has suddenly swung into another direction.
Nick bravely chooses to keep his date with
Charlie, but how now to face the outsider world head-on?
In this series the characters seem to have
penchant for overhearing each other in the bathroom and other private spaces,
and this time when Charlie meets with Tao in the men’s room, where he finally
explains that Nick is his “friend”—a coded word even in this openly gay series
that means everything that truly matters—Tao is forced to back off, and Nick,
having heard the uttered word, is a bit astounded. He needs obviously, to
rethink what friendship truly means.
And yes, of course, even somewhat thick-headed
Nick finally realizes that he finally has to explain to Imogen how things
stand. What’s terribly sad, however, in this teen rom-com is that Nick wishes
that he had met Charlie when he was younger! What could that possibly mean, a time
before puberty, when he and Charlie might have played sexual games without any
of the teenage anxieties? We know things might have ended even more complex if
that had been the case.
For anyone who thinks this series might
have been simple, I suggest they attend to this quite serious exploration of gay
teenage problems and the complex emotions that go along with them. If episode 5
is not particularly profound, it summarizes the concerns that need to be resolved
between young boys finally coming to terms with themselves.
Nick cancels his late date with Imogen, kisses Charlie full on the lips,
and the next morning tells his ex-girlfriend “You’re a really nice person, but
I don’t like you like that,” a purposely queer sentence construction which
explains everything. He adds, “I’m not sure we fit together. I’m not sure I fit
with you.”
If Imogen doesn’t quite get the message,
Nick certainly has begun to comprehend the difficult transformation in which he
about to engage: “Did you ever feel like you’re only doing things because
everyone else is? And you’re scared to change? Or do something that might
confuse or surprise people? Your real personality has been buried inside you
for a really long time. I guess, um, how I’ve been feeling like recently.”
I have rarely heard a better definition
of what it might feel like to realize that you’re not the person you and others
have been imagining, that you, in fact, don’t share the same sexuality expected
of you. This should be broadcast as a major “coming out” lesson.
Even Imogen “gets it,” and tells the
bullies that she and Nick have decided that they’re best as friends.
Los
Angeles, October 25, 2024
Reprinted from My Queer Cinema blog
(October 2024).