hooking up
by
Douglas Messerli
Michael
Morgenstern (screenwriter and director) Shabbat Dinner / 2012 [14 minutes]
It is in this very possibility, moreover,
that makes Morgenstern’s comic tribute to the children’s experience of Shabbat
dinner so much more profound than perhaps it even intended to be.
Rebecca Shore (Eva Kaminsky) is the kind
of activist Jewish woman who goes about constantly seeking out new causes to
help. And she has found one in David Bernstein-Cohen’s liberal Jewish seminary,
which through David’s wife, the very open-minded Susan (Dawn Yanek), Rebecca
has discovered and evidently contributed money.
To celebrate their new relationship,
Rebecca has invited the Bernstein-Cohens over for Shabbat dinner, an event that
displeases her habitually displeased lawyer husband, Arnold (Michael Wikes).
The early part of the dinner, as so many
such evenings generally do, consists primarily of the parents expressing their bragging
rights over their son’s intellectual and athletic abilities. Arnold insists
that his son William is about to be made captain of his lacrosse team,
explaining that he didn’t even like lacrosse when he started, but “I said buck
up kind. You need to do what you got to do to get into college.”
When the boys join up in William’s bedroom soon
after, both make it clear how much they hate sports.
When
asked if he has any video games they might share, William has to admit that not
only is he not allowed any such games, but that his mother doesn’t even let him
watch television. He does demonstrate to his new acquaintance a small Morse
Code machine that he’s created in his science class, carefully placing Virgo’s
fingers on the small board as he explains the differentiations between letters
of the alphabet.
With little else to occupy them, the
boys are forced to talk, Virgo asking if William has a girlfriend (William has
broken up with his former female friend Dora), and Virgo admitting after
several such queries by the curious William, that he not only has no girlfriend
but, prefacing the comment with, “Promise you won’t be upset,” admitting that
he’s gay.
After being asked whether he or not he’s
told anyone else, Virgo moves forward into even more dangerous territory,
admitting that he has told a friend with whom he has “hooked up.”
Even more startled by the fact that Virgo
has actually “hooked up with a guy,” he rightfully asks, “Why did you tell me?”
The answer is somewhat evident, but
Virgo cannot explain perhaps even to himself, admitting that he also told his
parents “yesterday.”
Even more startled by that news,
William is amazed by their responses: “My mom cried but she’s pretty crazy. My dad
said God creates everyone equally.”
“It’s so cool that you’re gay,”
responds William. “I mean, I’m not. But it’s so cool that you have the balls to
say it.”
As if we need to further explore the differences
between these two boys, the author/director takes us back to the dining room to
a discussion between their parents.
The adults have evidently been also
discussing their children’s dating habits, the Bernstein-Cohens proffering that
they don’t probe into their son’s personal relationships. Rebecca, however,
cannot resist mentioning that “William is a serial dater. He just broke up with
his girlfriend. She wasn’t Jewish.”
The least open-minded of the little
gathering, Arnold, marches right into the conversation to demonstrate clearly
why his son is so amazed by Virgo’s honesty: “Oh Jesus. No, I would not let my
kid marry a goy. Our people have been persecuted for centuries. We
finally have a state of Israel. If we intermarried there would be none of us
left.”
It takes Susan a few attempts to get
up the nerve to express her sentiments, but eventually she challenges the
unthinking bigot of the group: “I think… I think that’s racist.”
Like a metronome, Rebecca follow the
very next beat: “Who wants dessert?”
But Arnold cannot be stopped, declaring
that he and his wife keep kosher because “I’m a good Jew. Marrying only within
the faith means the same thing.”
Contrarily, David Bernstein-Cohen
argues that being a good Jew is about respect and tolerance, “For some people
it’s more spiritual.”
“I’m a lawyer. You respect the law.
Religion is a set of rules to live by,” intrudes the idealogue.
Back in the bedroom, the boys decide
to play Trivia, but are just as quickly distracted by the world they have just
been discussing.
William: “How did you know you were
gay?”
Virgo: “I dunno. I just knew. I mean,
you don’t always know. I looked at guys and thought I was interested. I kissed
girls and wasn’t. It’s all on a spectrum, you know? Haven’t you ever looked at
a guy and thought about him sexually?
William admits, “Yeh, a few times.” After
a long pause, he asks, “How does it feel to kiss a guy?”
“Can I ask you something?” [Beat] “You
wanna hookup.”
To me, this says everything, a response
which finally has met up with his entire familial situation and the learned
behavior that necessarily goes with it. Whether is will ever be able to resist
those words, his sorrow for being unable to truly be himself sexually will
determine whether or not he will become the heterosexual monsters with whom gay
boys always fall in love.
And Virgo’s response is precisely
what he will find himself saying to such monsters time and again: “I shouldn’t
have asked that.”
William seems to have already joined
the band: “And I’m not gay.”
But then, something interesting happens,
as it generally does. The totally straight boy shakingly moves toward Virgo and
kisses him.
The two are truly startled, Virgo
answering “That was so cool.”
A call out to the boys that the
Bernstein-Cohens are leaving, put an end to everything as they rush to redress.
“Look man, I’m not gay,” insists
William.
Virgo kisses him. At that very
moment, Arnold enters the still darkened room.
William whispers: “Write down your
number!”
At the front door, Rebecca
concludes the evening, as her guests say goodbye, “Well that was lovely.”
The date of this event, we are visually
told at the beginning of the film, was long ago in the past, 1999, which forces
all the more to wonder, whatever happened to William? Virgo is certain to have
gone onto college and met a cute guy and perhaps even married him a few
years after this film was made, particularly if he didn’t contract AIDS along
the way.
But William is the one who
interests me here. Morgenstern argues in a brief introductory note that his
story is about “the coming out of…two boys.” But since the film ends without
any evidence, it is just as likely that in his need to please and emulate his
forceful father, little Bill went onto law school, married properly into the
Jewish faith, and himself became a lawyer or a found another profession that
made his parents proud—while himself proudly declaring to every gay boy who
found themselves falling for him: “I’m not gay, but write down your number just
in case,” having long since learning that “hooking up” does not necessarily involve
being “hooked.”
Los
Angeles, May 27, 2024
Reprinted
from My Queer Cinema blog (May 2024).
No comments:
Post a Comment