the drag queen’s son
by Douglas Messerli
Orlando Nadres (screenplay), Lino Brocka
(director) Ang Tatay Kong Nanay (My Father, My Mother) / 1978
If one marvels at the buoyancy of the late 20th
century Philippine film industry, there are two names that help to explain it:
Kidlat Tahimik and Lino Brocka, the later of whom is partially responsible for
the surfeit of LGBTQ films still being created in that country.
One
of Brocka’s central films is his comedy-drama Ang Tatay Kong Nanay (My
Father, My Mother), was shot, amazingly for its subject matter, in 1978, an
incredibly prolific period for the director, who also filmed Mananayaw, Gumising
Ka, Maruja, Hayop sa Hayop, and Rubia Servios among
other works during the same year.
Father/Mother
is a somewhat long—almost two hours—and rather discursive work ranging over so
many different issues that it alone challenges, long before it was popular to
do so, any singular identity of LGBTQ individuals.
The film begins by suggesting that its central figure, hair stylist Dioscoro Derecho, better known as Coring (played by one of the most popular comedians of Philippine cinema, Dolphy [Rodolfo Quizon]) is a rather haggard drag queen, watching in tears as his friends camp it up and dance out the night. Coring, it seems, cannot get over the abandonment of his previous boyfriend/son/lover Dennis (Phillip Salvador), who after Coring paid for his education ran off to another city, a situation that has its echoes in the character of Bernadette Bassenger (memorably played by Terence Stamp) in The Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert (1994) who lost his young lover Trumpet to the fumes of peroxide.
Coring’s friends not only mock his inability to enjoy the evening, but
gang up in a taxi on their way home to destroy Coring’s one remaining treasure
of that relationship, a letter from Dennis. The cater-wauling group, like the
rather self-hating and friend-baiting gang of The Boys in the Band—yet
another echo of this highly influential film—finally escape in flight as first
Coring bails after which the cab driver forces the others to follow.
After that night on the town one can hardly imagine the somewhat tired
but yet talented parlorista he appears to be the next day. Living in the
comfortable, if not fashionable house his father left him, he is a community
regular despite his flamboyant behavior, celebrated by neighborhood figures who
live far more destitute lives than he does.
But that new day also holds a remarkable series of events beginning with
the reappearance of his beloved Dennis, who has now evidently joined the
American navy in order to help support the infant son he carries with him, but
whom Coring—so overwhelmed by the homecoming of his beloved protégé—barely
notices.
Dennis, so we discover has unintentionally impregnated a hooker, Mariana
Jimenez (Marissa Delgado), who not only soon after left Dennis, but moved on to
financially greener grasses. Scheduled for almost immediate duty on a departing
ship, the young man abandons the boy, later called Nonoy (Niño Muhlach), to the
care of his longing elderly lover.
Coring can’t say that he hasn’t been warned by his clients, many of whom
are also cross-dressers, about the near-impossible odds he will face in raising
a young boy, particularly given his lifestyle and the tatty neighborhood in
which lives and works. How will he possibly care for the
Much of this film, in fact, is given over to just those questions, with
Coring seeking out a strange familial-like support, ways to financially balance
his own needs with those of an always growing boy, and his attempt to provide
his son with the moral values that might represent a normalization outside of
whose boundaries the child’s father has lived throughout his life.
If
the film appears now to reverberate with the pop comedy of a commercial film
such as the 1985/1987 film (Trois
hommes et un couffin / Three Men and a Baby), Brocka predictably
approaches his work with a far darker tone.
Coring clearly does not perceive his own life’s trajectory as fitting
with the future what that he imagines for the boy, and his gradual toning down
of his personality and his unexpected criticism of those in his shop who, in
front of the boy, uncontrollably project their queenly personae, loses him
customers as well as, we are certain, some of his own self-respect.
Brocka, presumably, might almost be faulted for his character’s tacit
disapproval of high-camp behavior—which is, in itself often a tactic with which
to survive the normative, disapproving world in which effeminate homosexuals
live—but given the early date of a film confronting audiences with such a
wide-range of truly controversial LGBTQ issues, I think it might be prudent to
forgive both the director and his screenwriter, Orlando Nadres.
In the very same year the French-Italian film La Cage aux Folles got
around these issues by simply ignoring them, as it were not even an issue worth
questioning for a young boy to grow up atop a Saint-Tropez gay drag club with a
male drag queen parent, Albin Mougeotte, who with the boy’s blood-father helped
raise the perfectly normative heterosexual boy Laurent. Brocka and Nadres quite
obviously approach a similar situation more seriously.
As After
Dark critic Noel Vera wrote, in a biographical summary of Dolphy’s career
at the time of the entertainer’s death in 2012:
“If there's any comedy in the picture, unlike
with most of Dolphy's movies, the humor arises from character rather than
situation, and Dolphy here reveals himself as a superb character actor. Witness
his discomfort at dealing with Dennis (the physical attraction he feels so
intense he almost feels faint); witness too the growing sense of maternal love
he feels for Nonoy, Dennis' child....
More, there's a handling of homosexuality that is startlingly deft,
considering when this was made. Coring doesn't believe in gay empowerment—when
Nonoy catches him in drag, he makes excuses; when the boy puts on lipstick (in
an attempt to play an American Indian), Coring, misunderstanding, reprimands
the boy. Brocka shows us a gay man who fails to transcend his times (Coring
believes homosexuality is a flaw—or worse, a sin), who nevertheless does his
level best to be a parent to the child; watching Coring bumble along in
desperate befuddlement, often against the dictates of his own instincts,
creates a complex knot of feelings in the viewer. You feel your heart quietly
breaking in sympathy for the man, the same time you find yourself (despite the
film's overall serious tone) chuckling in amusement.”
If
there is any evidence that the actions with which Coring has been involved for
his entire life are societally verboten we recognize it when the police,
with clubs raised, suddenly appear in an attempt to close down the event.
Coring takes cover beneath a metal-supported bleacher, suddenly discovering
Nonoy standing beside him. The look on Coring’s face is one of horror and
regretful release, as if all that he has attempted to keep out of the boy’s
consciousness has been for naught.
Angrily, he pulls the boy out of the rubble of his dream-night and walks
him home, his make-up dripping from what are surely his tears of fear and
embarrassment. Yet the boy seemingly takes it all with amazing innocent, as if
he has just witnessed a special treat, a playful costume party in which men are
permitted to dress up as women. It’s a touching scene that reveals, especially
by film’s end, the absurdity of Coring’s attempts to hide his own natural
proclivities.
Despite these corrective incidents, however, one cannot imagine a move
loving and supportive father than Coring, who clearly dotes on the boy as if he
were truly his own child germinated by his long-ago lover.
Returning home to discover Nonoy missing, Coring and his friends go on a
mad search for the boy, who finally shows up with Dennis, a relief and a
somewhat sad pleasure for Coring of seeing his “other” son for at least one
night. Nonoy watches his uncle leave with some sadness, demanding that he come
back for a visit soon.
This episode creates a major tonal shift in the entire work, as we now
discover another, more frightening aspect of Coring’s identity after Dennis,
also visiting Marianna, reveals to her their son’s whereabouts.
Since leaving, Dennis the ex-hooker has married a wealthy man whose
death soon after has made her wealthy, transforming her into a kind a
dictatorial head of household that Marianna might have conjured up from reading
about Imelda Marcos—who we might recall was ousted from role as the First Lady
along with her Filipino President husband Ferdinand only a year previous to the
making of this movie.
While Coring quickly shows her the door after she, too, briefly kidnaps
the boy for a shopping spree, he realizes that he will never be able to outwit
her lawyers and can never offer Nonoy the opportunities her money represents.
Almost sheepishly, he bows to her demands, requesting only that she leave the
boy with him for just a little while longer so that he may acclimate Nonoy to
the change he is about to suffer.
If previously any anger that Coring expressed to the boy as out of love,
he now appears to scold and even taunt the boy for no obvious reason, refusing
to even give him a few coins to buy his bird—a present from Marianna—a small
pack of birdseed, and demanding the boy return home when he attempts to display
the bird to some of his friends in the street. If at first one might imagine
that he is taking out his own anger and hurt upon the child he about to lose,
we recognize, more importantly, that he is still attempting to teach the boy to
love him a little less. After each angry outburst, the actor Dolphy hurriedly
turns away from the camera as if hiding his own bodily pains and subsequent
tears for what he believes is his necessary behavior.
Refusing to the even eat, Nonoy goes on a kind of personal strike which
raises his mother’s ire as she attempts to force him to behave as the model son
whom he has imagined might give her solace and company. The boy runs away,
returning home at another moment when Coring is again dressed in drag. But this
time he quickly embraces the boy with all his love, Nonoy reporting that he has
run away and that if he is sent back he will run away again, ad infinitum,
as long as it takes for Coring to once more become his father or, looking at
the man dressed as a woman who stands before him, his mother. And so, with
tears flowing from the crossdresser’s eyes, the movie ends much as it began.
As
I wrote about the gentle film above, You Are Not Alone, 1978 was a
particularly mean, if fascinating, year when it came to the depiction of LGBTQ
people. These two films were notable exceptions, Brocka’s work becoming a
touchstone for honest portraits of queer folk for a long time to come.
Los Angeles, December 4, 2020
Reprinted from My Queer Cinema blog and
World Cinema Review (December 2020).










