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Anthony Schatteman | Dag vreemde man (Hello, Stranger) / 2016

the stranger on the couch

by Douglas Messerli

 

Anthony Schatteman (screenwriter and director) Dag vreemde man (Hello, Stranger) / 2016

[19 minutes]

 

With the long shadows of Wim Wenders’ Paris, Texas (1984) and Stephan Elliott’s The Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert (1994) flickering over it, Flemish director Anthony Schatteman’s Hello, Stranger is a very moving film about a man, Arthur (Arend Pinoy), who performs each evening as a drag queen in a Ghent gay bar. He’s a popular performer and has a deep friend in another elderly drag queen who performs with a full beard, Michel (Wim Opbrouck).


      Everything might seem quite ordinary for a gay film if it were not for the fact that Arthur also is raising a young boy, Max, who he has brought up alone since he wife Daisy (Delfine Bafort) left them when the child was still an infant. Keeping the boy close to him in his dressing room as he goes on stage, Arthur performs with his heart in his throat in worry for his son as Michel often looks after the boy.



    One night, however, the boy awakens to wander off into the busy dance floor where Arthur has been ordered to appear, and for a few moments he madly searches in terror through the dancing drunk and drugged out customers to scoop up Max from the bowels of the crowd. Even Max’s schoolteacher chastises Arthur for still wearing nail polish as he delivers him up to school in the morning.



      Arthur cannot even help encouraging Max, for time to time, to play drag queen with him at home, where the numerous gaudy, sequined dresses and wigs are on open display. He is he doing right by his son?

      To make things even more complex, Daisy has suddenly returned after all these years, begging to see the son who might not even recognize her. Finally, Arthur relents and, retrieving Max from Michel’s care, hurries home with the boy to lay him beside his mother on the couch.

       So the film ends, without any answers about whether that bond will bring her to demand to keep Max or even bring her back together with the man who, as she puts it, she just “couldn’t” any longer live with.


       Played with enormous restraint, despite the exaggerated world in which Arthur and Max live, Schatteman’s tender short film presents all the problems of trying to protect and love someone from aspects of one’s own life which to the outside world may seem perverse and deleterious to the child. Arthur is a man torn between his love of his son and his own identity. Need he, we ultimately have to ask, abandon who he is in order to protect the child he loves? Will the boy grow up to find his father, as his mother apparently did, to be too strange to live with? Or will Max come to recognize that the real stranger in his life is the woman with whom he has laid down to sleep, his own mother?

 

Los Angeles, September 9, 2023

Reprinted from World Cinema Review (September 2023).

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