face in the pillow
by Douglas Messerli
Chad Hylton (screenwriter and director) Love You Thank You /
2017 [27 minutes]
In this short comedy-drama gay boy Lance (Tim
Torre) spends most of the time arguing with his inner self (body double Michael
Nicolo) about his previous relationship with Adam (Donovan Mendelovitz) who,
long after their breakup, has asked Lance to attend his first major art
opening.

Lance is about to obsequiously return the man he once loved, while his inner self
attempts to force him to remember all the unpleasant occurrences which resulted
in their breakup. In fact, despite the rather bitchy and often outright nasty
Lance 2, what we witness in the film’s ongoing series of flashbacks of Lance’s
and Adam’s relationship, the couple’s first encounter at a coffee shop, is
rather charming, as the frustrated would-be actor Lance first introduces
himself to Adam, who has secretly been drawing picture of him from afar. Their
affair seems almost destined as, having swallowed some peanuts to which he
quickly discovers Lance is allergic, Adam tosses them out stating that he
regrets having eaten them. Lance responds, “You really want to kiss me.” “I
do,” continues Adam, Lance countering it would literally kill him. “I’m that
good,” jokes Adam.
Back to Lance’s learnèd conscience: “He was molasses smooth and sugary
sweet like a snicker-fuckin’ doddle and you chowed down on that shit like a
thirsty little bitch, but you know what, too much sugar and you know what
you’ve got, a rotten tooth….” So much for love at first sight.
When
we witness more flashbacks, Lance’s and Adam’s early sexual encounters also
suggest some problems. Adam apparently sees himself as the top, but has
difficulties in finishing the job, whereas Lance would actually enjoy that
position. They have been evidently talking about the shift, with Adam resisting.
Does he somehow see the position as something essential to his control, a macho
role? The film doesn’t precisely suggest that, but we discern something is a
bit amiss. He claims he’s simply stressed out about the how his art show is
going, but his comments, “I don’t know what I’m doing,” suggest a far bigger
issue that lies underneath his doubts.

Adam soon admits to a very dark high school experience, “lots and lots
of black Crayolas, boys and boys of black Crayola.” He had no one to even
invite to the Prom. In the midst of Adam’s conversation, Lance admits that he
loves him, which stops everything for a few moments as if a time warp had swallowed
them both. He apologizes, suggesting that his love was not something which he
even had permission to mention. “I know we haven’t been dating that long and I
know it’s kind of crazy, but I had to say it.”
Adam’s response, gives meaning to the film’s title, “Thank you, really.”
Even the densest of audience members must surely realize there are some
serious problems ahead.
Lance is forced immediately to back off, describing his feelings as not
suggesting that he is “in love with Adam,” but simply that he loves spending
time with him. It is apparent, however, that he’s now saying something he
doesn’t really mean: covering up the lie that he truly loves someone by
pretending he does not. Dangerous territory lies indeed.
The
two make passionate love, but all Adam has to offer is “Hey, I appreciate you
too.”
Even
Lance’s conscience has to admit that he didn’t actually run away like a
sociopath. Perhaps he should go see him at the opening, explaining his decision
to agree with his softer self as has having to do with his back molar tooth
pain—caused probably by the oversweet lies Adam has fed him.
Back into history, we discover that their relationship is truly
disintegrating. Their game of “Perfectly perfect” has seemingly been forgotten
by Adam, who also refuses to let Lance see the drawings he’s doing of him.
Alcohol is more prevalent. Adam seems to suddenly wonder about his lover’s
capability of even getting home safely, and refuses to accompany him upstairs
into the room where presumably they might have sex. When a lover suggests, “You
know yourself better than I do,” it’s clear the personal involvement between
the two men in a deep relationship has evaporated. He no longer even pretends
or apparently even wants to know the “other,” as writers such as Eudora Welty
have long made clear is the mania of early romances, involving the absurd attempt
to even become the other.
Lance nonetheless lures him upstairs and the two engage in great sex.
But when your lover suggests that he’s not ready—pausing seemingly forever—for
a show, anyone with even a bit of common sense knows it’s not just his art show
about which he’s speaking, particularly since, as we suspect, his art is
focused on his lover.
When Lance suggests that he believes his boyfriend is certainly ready
for the show, Adam counters with a legitimate question, “How would you know me
better than I do.” Lance has taken the leap that Adam has not dared to,
attempting to insert himself into his lover’s life. And when they fight soon
after, Adam screaming out “I never know with you,” Lance rightfully responds,
“Know what?” We realize that what he doesn’t know has to do with Adam’s own
inability to fully come to terms with himself emotionally and sexually. As
Lance perceives, what he really doesn’t know is whether or not he truly loves Lance.
The metaphor, strangely, becomes the “cum on his chest,” still dripping
from their sex, a moment when Adam has been forced to actually realize that his
semen involves another human being, instead of a body turned away from him
facing into the pillow. The fact that Lance has demanded the act as a
face-to-face encounter seems to have changed everything.
Lance, pairing up with his double yet again, determines it’s time to
take a walk.
He recalls another meeting with Adam, perhaps their final one, in which
Adam describes, again in metaphoric language, the dilemma he faces.
“I feel
like someone has built a replica of my house across the street from my actual
house, the one I grew up in. An exact replica with all picture frames and
bookshelves and furniture and my grandmother’s urn, and just moved it across
the street. And in this new house there’s a comfort, a familiarity, but still
everything’s different. You know?”
Lance perceives the issue: “Yes, because you’re across the street and
the mailbox is on the wrong side.
But Adam puts it somewhat differently, “I’m not in the house I’ve always
lived in, but I’m home. I’m home.” The second emphatic insistence that he has
returned to the world Dorothy believes she has in Kansas, makes it clear he’s
still mentally in Oz.
The recognition that he might be able to live a life outside of his
internalized sense of self seems to promise everything, and the two kiss. But
it also suggests a sense of possessiveness, as if the other in that house did
not have his own world, his own furniture, his own vision of home.
Lance attends Adam’s opening. There he is greeted joyfully by Adam, whom
he hugs. But he is also greeted with a wall of pictures of himself, from that
first day of their meeting to their first dance and their intimate moments in
bed, including his face in the pillow. The smile on his observing face
gradually turns to a scowl, as he realizes that if the artist feels that Lance
has created a world just like his own in his house, that Adam has actually
stolen his image and the intimacy of their own love, putting it on public view,
an act which many visual and other artists reveal their lack of true respect
for their private lives.
When Lance encounters the final piece revealing their breakup, he rushes
out of the gallery. Back at home he confronts his “toxic” self who has made him
question everything, telling him “I hate you.” But his other, rational being
powerfully reacts, “Wow, maybe that’s your problem.” Lance puts on Greg
Atkinsons’ song “Only Me” and gently dances with his own other.
I
have to admit, when I first saw this short film, I simply perceived it as yet
another example of the numerous works of the “failed gay relationship” genre.
But after watching it yet again, I was struck by director Chad Hylton’s quite
sophisticated dialogue, and realized that, not only was it highly original but
it fit very nicely in a kind of subset of that genre, the narcissistic
relationships between visual artists and their lovers, films which include
Armen Kazazian’s Gold (2005), Tami Ravid’s Boy (2012), James
Fanizza’s Sebastien I discussed above, and Stillman’s Portrait directed
by Joshua Davy just a year before this film, in 2016.
Los Angeles, November 3, 2023
Reprinted from World Cinema Review (November
2023).